Hello Friends!

Once again I am going posting some older posts In efforts for others to get to know us and to help others in need. Here we go…

Looking back at our miscarriage post just brings such mixed feelings. It reminds us of how far we have come since then, as well as how much we still mourn and miss our little one. We want to document our lives as much as possible through these posts not only to keep track of our memories and life events, but to also hopefully help other couples along the way.

Today we have wonderful news to share, and yes you have guessed it! We are pregnant! After a long couple of months, we finally decided to try again to complete our family. With this excitement also comes a heap of fear. We understand that many others must go through the same emotions after a miscarriage, and we concluded that it would be helpful to others to come with us through this journey.

Trying to conceive is supposed to be an exciting experience, but trying after a miscarriage just brings fear, confusion, and doubt. Every time I had the slightest symptom, I would over analyze and question whether or not our attempts were successful. The worst part was, that when I shared a similar symptom to one I had during my silent miscarriage, I panicked.

When we first discovered those two red lines, all was silent. We were in a state of shock. I won’t ever forget laying in bed with Cole, facing him, and just trying to work up the words to say. Since we have been together for almost 8 years, it didn’t take a single word. A simple look was enough for him to ask if I was pregnant. Once the state of shock subsided, Cole immediately smiled and felt utter bliss. We both were happy, but the fear of losing this pregnancy was like a dark cloud hovering us each day.

Then there is the dilemma of when to share the big news. We announced our pregnancy to close family and friends the day we found out we were pregnant the first time. The second time around we only told Cole’s mom and one close friend of mine several days after our positive test. We felt like there was honestly two parts of our missed miscarriage last time. Learning and dealing with the news ourselves, and then having to share the bad news with everyone else. We literally broke Cole’s moms heart last time. She just lost both her parents within the last year, and she was over the moon excited for her first grandchild. Then it was just ripped away from her.

After these initial thoughts and feelings, we have had some time to reflect. Now that we have thought about all of this in greater detail, we realized that we need to live life. While we will never forget our first pregnancy, it shouldn’t take away from the happiness of our second one. There is no for sure indication that the tragedy would occur again, so we should be able to celebrate this wonderful time in our life. A lot of people have been praying for this little miracle, and we are going to rejoice about it!

We know that not everyone is the same. What works for one couple may not work for the next. But if you are hesitating about sharing your news, just take a deep breath and do it! At least tell someone close to you, because having that support system is important. It is important during both the sad and happy times during the roller coaster of life. Also, we were reminded of how important it is to be emotionally supportive to your partner during this time. You both are probably feeling similar, and it really helps to communicate about it and be on the same page. If you or someone you know has experienced a pregnancy after miscarriage, please share what methods worked best for you or for them to cope.